The society evolved. Our culture tells women that we no longer need a man. Yet, our nature is not quite sure. Deep inside women crave the feeling of being safe and protected, by a man who adores them and is willing to bring the world at their feet.
The reason we may want to pay attention to how nature works, is simply because it works. Masculine and feminine forces of nature complement each other. In that sense, the masculine essence of a man evokes the feminine in a woman and vice versa. The feminine becomes vibrant and alive in the presence of the loving and protective masculine energy, and the masculine finds a compelling reason to move mountains, inspired by the radiant light and the pure innocent love of the feminine essence. Gone are the times when women needed men to survive and support them, the western woman is pretty independent and self-sufficient today. Which is a big plus, except… it has created a different kind of challenge in relationships. Passion and attraction are for the most part gone, due to the lack of polarity between men and women in the west. Many women today have lost touch with their true essence and their female power, altogether.
Let me explain…
You see, attraction, contrary to popular belief, is created by polarity… no rocket science here… the opposites attract. We know. Just like a magnet, a woman with strong female power will draw towards herself everything of masculine charge, including men, opportunities and tangible results. Well, let’s see how that plays out in relationships. Masculine energy is naturally giving, and feminine is naturally designed to receive. It is our nature, it is not something we choose consciously, you don’t have to look much further, our own bodies are designed in such a way – men give women the semen and if women chose to receive it, they create life. To be fair, we both have a good mix of feminine and masculine energy in us. However, most men have a natural masculine essence, and most women are naturally more feminine… that is until women started spending more of their time in the masculine-oriented world, and unleashed their masculine side… making decisions, overcoming challenges, setting goals and structures of fulfillment. Women grew stronger in their masculine essence. Since masculine energy grows with a challenge, its only natural that single mothers, businesswomen, and women dealing with a lot of challenges, on their own, will grow stronger in their masculine essence. All good here.
At the same time, men were able to relax and embrace some of their Feminine qualities. We no longer believe that Men can’t cry, or have no emotions. As both partners in a relationship became jointly responsible for meeting their financial needs, Men were able to embrace some of their hobbies… music, poetry, nature… and get more in touch with their feminine side Which allowed them to be more caring and compassionate. Which is great.
The challenge is, that in chasing goals and results, many women lose touch with their feminine essence. Not only that, but we make our feminine qualities wrong. Naturally. We live in a very masculine-oriented world, where we value results and accomplishments, and in order for women to succeed, we need to adapt and strengthen our masculine side. Which is great as it allows us to become more and more Successful, except we often end up competing with men, and proving that we can beat men at their own game. Ouch.
The real downside of all this is that often growing our masculine essence, causes us to weaken our feminine… which is the case for many successful women today. As we grow stronger in making decisions and being powerful in the world… we lose touch with the woman inside. And remember what creates the attraction… It’s a polarity. When a woman loses touch with her feminine essence, she is no longer found very attractive by the masculine in a man. Sure they can appreciate that she is very smart and savvy, but there is no spark of attraction. It’s not a choice for men. It’s an Instinct. Even if a man finds her physically attractive, he will not consider her for a long term relationship, as the polarity is not there. Polarity works like a vacuum, it draws a man in. And remember one of the most profound masculine traits is the need to give and be appreciated. It literally makes men feel super strong and powerful as a man. Can you see how this creates a challenge in the modern world today? Since women are unwilling (or unable) to receive. In order for a giver to give he needs a receiver to receive. Many women are too self-sufficient and independent today, to allow a man to contribute to their life. It leaves men feeling useless and unappreciated. The results are quite obvious, and we see them all around us – many successful women are well… very single. Either by choice or by circumstances. And since being successful implies being strong, we can not even allow ourselves to feel, never mind express, the longing inside for a strong masculine essence in our life. The longing for a man who we can trust, who has his act together, and is so powerful, generous and loving, that it enables us to relax and put our guard down, even if just for a moment, to experience being a woman, feeling free of worry, responsibility, and control.
Attracting this kind of powerful man into your life is possible and fun when you create the vacuum of polarity. It is easy.
Makes sense? Of course, it does. You are smart, and this is why I am talking to you… You get this. Now let’s go and practice. Have some fun with these insights and share your successes with us – this is how we learn and grow as women. For more relationship tips and to end your frustrations with men, join the Instaglam Club, where women like you and me, Sassy, Savvy and Successful hang out and support each other… together we make this world a better place for all.
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