New Year – New Love?

You Can Not Get There From Here!

Unleash Your Female Power – Skip The Dating Game – Let Mr. Right Find You

If you have been dreaming of being in Love, this may be the best time of the year to manifest it – after all, the beginning of the year is often associated with a New Beginning – it is full of excitement, hopes, and inspiration.  And if you are already in a relationship, thinking that this does not apply to you and you are doomed, please wait – not so fast – you too can turn things around and inspire more passion and romance in your existing relationship.

But HOW?
It is easier than you may think – the nature of this vibrational energy Universe is such that we attract into our lives the very things (including people and circumstances) that reflect our own state of being.  That’s right – your state of being becomes your point of Attraction.

What does this mean to you personally?
It’s simple – if you are constantly living in the space of anger, you keep attracting angry people to match your own state.  If you find yourself often in the space of fear, you will keep attracting people and circumstances to confirm your fears – thefts will steal from you, partners will cheat or leave you and the list goes on.  Likewise, if we live in the space of gratitude and love – we keep attracting people and events from that place – the people that come to us are the kind of people that inspire even more appreciation and leave us wondering “how could I be so lucky to have this life”?

When Massimo and I met, it was magical.  I had just done some deep spiritual work, and after cleansing old patterns of beliefs and behaviors, I was living in the space of gratitude and love.  I was also in between relationships, and my lifestyle coach suggested that I write a list that describes the type of man that will make me happy and fulfilled.  I took the task to heart and worked on it diligently – my list was longer than the Nile, with over 50 entries and 3 pages of well… male qualities.  All the qualities that I thought I want in a man – smart, funny, passionate, romantic, authentic, adventurous, successful… I had it all covered.  When I looked at my list with pride, it seemed impossible for such a person to even exist. But I am an optimist at heart.  Excited, I shared my list with a friend and he just laughed – “Men don’t come like this.  You can’t expect a single man to embody all of these qualities.  Maybe, you need a few, as a matter of fact – quite a few, in order to fulfill on your dream-man list”.  

Then it was time to present my homework to my well-regarded personal coach. She took a very long look at my list and smiled. “A very impressive man we have here”, she acknowledged. I nodded as I was pleased with my list as well. Then she continued “And pls do tell me, why would a man like this, want to be with you? Actually, do you even know what this kind of man is looking for, in a woman?”

I was puzzled. I looked at her in disbelief and I wasn’t sure if I should feel offended, or hurt? For a moment I thought that she was joking, after all, she knew I was a “good catch”. I was successful since I was able to afford her hefty fee, all by myself, and obviously, she can see I work out and take good care of myself. I had a lineup of men wanting to take me out, so that should have served as proof of my being a high-value woman, right? But she was not joking. She was serious and with a straight face, she asked me to go and contemplate the answer, she asked me not to rush.

A week passed and I had not a thing. No answer! It actually became painfully obvious to me, how little I understood men. Real men, that is, the ones who honor their word and will never let you down, and who will die to save the life of another. Not sure about you, but up until that day, in my early 40’s I had never met one. Or at least, that’s what I thought.

Shortly my wonderful man showed up in my life, and he was everything I asked for in a man, and more. I did not go searching, as a matter of fact, I did not go on one single date.  He found me.  However, for a man with all these qualities to show up in my space, I had to do a little more than just write a list and wish for the best – I took the road less traveled into self-discovery of who I was, as a woman, and where my real power was… hence my Female Power.

The REAL question here is – who do you have to be in order for “the man of your dreams” to be an energetic match, e.g. to be attracted to you or even notice you.  I am not suggesting that you need to turn yourself into something or someone that you are not.  On the contrary – the qualities a man needs in you are already there  But due to our cultural beliefs, you might be used to playing down your soft side.  Well in order for a masculine man to pay attention to you, your very feminine core has to evoke his curiosity and this will pull him in like a magnet.  This is the irony for women today – we keep looking for Mr. Right, and we blame the men for not being good enough, yet the reality is, good men, do exist out there.  However, for them to even see us (literally) – we need to exist in “their Universe”, energetically.

To make this easy, let’s distinguish how attraction really works – attraction, as the word implies, is a magnetic force that brings two opposites together. Therefore, if you are looking to attract a high caliber man, someone with extremely masculine qualities, the one who has a strong sense of direction and purpose, integrity, and a set of principles that rule his life, the type of man that will never let you down, or run away from commitment, you will need to evoke the very feminine side of yourself, which is the exact opposite of his masculinity – nurturing, playful, loving and soft.  The type of woman that a masculine man needs in his life – to inspire him, is… well you guessed it – feminine. And this is where your true power lies, as a woman. Being a woman is your Female Power!

In a relationship already?  Good news – this same principle applies to your existing relationship – you can turn things around in a split second, you can evoke masculine qualities in your man by simply shifting into a more feminine woman.  Men read our energy and adjust accordingly.  Attraction is a law of nature, it is not a choice – and men have no other option but to step into being a more powerful male in the presence of a more feminine woman. How this looks, in reality, is that they will step into taking more responsibility if you relinquish being responsible yourself, they will grow to feel more powerful in your presence if you show respect and consult their opinion about major decisions in your life, and so on.

Makes sense? Of course, it does. You are a smart woman, and this is why I am talking to you… You get this. Now let’s go and practice. Have some fun with these insights and share your successes with us – this is how we learn and grow as women. For more relationship tips and to end your frustrations with men, join the Instaglam Club on Facebook, where women like you and me, Sassy, Savvy and Successful hang out and support each other – together we make this world a better place for all.

I am Dalila (my pen name) the founder of the Instaglam Club and the creator of the signature program Perla Nera, a method for Sassy, Savvy and Successful Women to create a Life they Love.

Together with my partner Massimo, we create exotic trips “Wines and Castles” – for couples who wish to experience the beauty and extravagance of the noble lifestyle while creating a deeper bond in their relationship.  Occasionally, we offer trips for Single Successful women, looking for a week away to pamper their spirit and learn to attract the man that they desire. 

Follow us on Instagram here:  https://www.instagram.com/instaglamclub and https://www.instagram.com/la_bella_vita_lifestyle